We got hitched!
Ian Philips and Greg Wharton were married
on Thursday, February 19, 2004 at San Francisco's City Hall.
(Thanks to our pal William Dean for the above wedding card.)
We're spouses for life, regardless of what happens to the status of our
license in the weeks, months, and years to come, (fuck you, Shrub!) and we've never been happier.
UPDATE: We got annulled!
On August 12, 2004, the California Supreme Court voids our marriage
and those of more than 3,950 other newlyweds...
Now that's hetrosexual privilege!

After an unsuccessful attempt on Sunday, we decided to go down to City Hall again and try our
luck—especially after Stephanie, our downstairs neighbor, buzzed us Wednesday evening and said that she and
Ellen had gotten married. Congratulations, Stephanie and Ellen!
Greg and I got up at 6am and got to Civic Center by 7am. And as we walked
out, a voice called what I thought was my name and Greg's. We turned and there
was Ali Liebegott, one of our Suspect Thoughts authors, and her future
wife Anna Joy Springer. (Never heard of them—oh, readers, you will. They're
both beyond brilliant.)
Ali and Anna Joy had driven up from San Diego the night before and were in
line with their friends Paula and Julieanne who'd made the drive with them and were
going to get married too.



Paula was in an awesome vintage 40s suit with killer wingtips. And Julie and
Anna Joy were in fabulous vintage dresses. And after Ali changed in the car,
she had on a great vintage ensemble as well—down to a handpainted tie with a
red-winged blackbird.
And they had everyone oohing and aahing around us. They were two dashing and
glamtastically beautiful couples. And Ali is truly one of the funniest people
I've ever had the privilege of providing my services as a laughtrack—I'm
something of a queer Ed McMahon but rarely drunk, way cuter, and actually
sincere in my laughter.
They let us stay with them and six hours later we were in the County Clerk's
office, raising our right hands to swear we'd told the whole truth when we'd
filled out the info for applicant 1 and applicant 2 (bureaucratic Seussisms
that took the place of bride and groom).




Then a volunteer led us down the corridor, as we were cheered on by others
waiting in line, to the Rotunda where we were paired with a witness, Dan, who'd recently moved to SF from Belmont, and Christina, a deputized
justice of the peace, who in fashion sense and body type bore a close
resemblance to my former very styling lesbian therapist who could have been an extra
on Showtime's The L-Word—either one of them. I'm still surprised a moped bike
gang of lipstick lesbians hasn't whisked J.—or Therapist 3 of 4 for those keeping score—off to their
split-level compound in the Hollywood Hills.
Like every official we encountered—except for this very officious queen who
was all about his Rob Lowe/James Spader circa 1984 hairdo and liked to come
out and shout down the line ("People, people, may I have your attention. People,
may I remind you this is a public place and...") to issue another
pronouncement about how there was only a slight chance we would get married because only
so many licenses would be issued—Christina was so kind, so gracious, and so happy
for us, even though we were the umpteenth beaming same-sex couple she'd seen
that day.






Actually, it was Dan's first wedding to witness and he was as excited as we
were. And we were Christina's first local couple that day out of the 30 that
had proceeded us.
We got to pick where we would wed—the south side of the 2nd floor next to the railing
overlooking the floor, volunteers, tourists, schoolchildren on field trips, wedding
gowns, and marriages below.
We handed Dan our disposable camera (our digital one has the staying power of
an overexcited teenage boy) and got positioned and let Christina begin.
She allowed us time to stop for vows, but we were so excited and in a happy
surreal daze (after hours of waiting in line, the wedding happened in minutes)
that we just let her continue and repeated after her and exchanged rings and
beamed and then kissed after she declared us spouses for life.
There was much clicking of cameras throughout all this, by Dan, and Chloe, a true-blue professional and celebrated photographer and a friend of
Ali and Anna Joy and Paula and Julie's who were all getting married on the other
side of the rotunda at the very same time (Congratulations!!!!), and a nice
stranger who hugged us afterward.


This all happened between 1:30-2ish. And then we went downstairs and got a
copy of our license and went outside were there was a long line still waiting
and only one protestor—the groups you're seeing now on the TV didn't show up
till later that afternoon.
And when same-sex marriage is legal throughout this country, we plan on
having a real big shin-dig and renewing our vows and inviting everyone!
In the meantime (and it looks like it could get very mean soon), we urge all of you to do what you can to fight the Federal Marriage Amendment. Click here to find out more.



